Here are some things to think about:
1. Support for the person at home
It's important to think about and discuss what you may need for the 16 weeks. Have some things to look forward to because it can be tough going at times. You may need some extra help and support if you have children.
Talk to whānau and friends who can help with childcare and household tasks. You may know partners or families of police or other recruits that you could be in contact with.
2. Managing the finances
This is important especially if you will have a reduction in income. Consider expenses with one person living away from home, including costs to travel home, childcare, travel for whānau to attend the graduation. A fund for unexpected bills is a good idea.
Police employees are eligible to join the NZ Police Credit Union, which offers a recruit loan at a low-interest rate to help during training. You may be eligible for financial assistance through Work and Income New Zealand (WINZ) and/or Inland Revenue (IRD).
3. Talk about your expectations
Discuss the expectations you may have of each other and sort out any conflict or issues in your relationship before your partner heads to the Police College.
4. Staying in touch
Talk about how you’ re going to keep in contact with each other and the children. Consider frequency of visits home and if you can come to the college for a visit.
Recruits who join the Police Association welfare fund are eligible to book holiday homes, which can provide a halfway point to meet if you’re a long distance apart.
Think about the best time for you both to make contact by phone calls, texts, Skype and Facetime. Recruits can make national phone calls free of charge from the landline in the barracks.
Recruits are issued with an iPhone for work purposes, but some limited personal use is allowed.
5. Children and parenting
Babies, children, and teens will go through an adjustment period while Mum or Dad is away. Discuss how you can help them manage the changes and make this time as smooth as possible for them.
Discuss what sort of contact will work best for your children. Work out how you will celebrate special occasions such as birthdays and manage the school holidays and other events.
You may like to tell school teachers that one parent is away, so they can talk with your child about it.
We recognise that your partner making a career change and living away can be a challenging time for you both, especially for partners at home with children.